Don’t Say That

We see it all the time on social media.  Couples that appear to have the perfect relationship and the perfect life.  Even if one is not in a relationship, they appear to have the most wonderful, fun-filled life where they travel around the world to amazing locations such as Bali, Maldives, and Monaco, all of which sound amazing right now, but I digress.

They may have their dream home, an abundance of friends, and so on.  Their pictures are “perfect,” and when some people view their social media, they will often say “goals,” as this person is seemingly living a life that other people aspire to have.  They will even say that they want to be that person, or to have their life, but do they really? 

Be mindful when you see things on social media.  They are not always what they seem, so you might want to be mindful about asking for someone else’s life, as you in fact may get it, and everything that you have not seen, that comes along with it.  Instead of saying that you want to be that person, why not simply ask the universe for what you want?  Do you want to be able to travel around the world?  Purchase your dream home?  Meet and marry the love of your life?

The reality is that this “life” you are seeing on social media that you admire so much and consider “goals,” could in fact be a disaster.  This person could be struggling every day with depression or anxiety, or worse.  Their life could be full of destruction and chaos.  We never know, as we have no knowledge of the ins and outs of their life, simply by looking at a beautiful photo or video on social media.  Could their relationship or life in fact be as “perfect” as it appears on social media?  Absolutely!  However, to play devil’s advocate, it may also be the total opposite.

How many times have we watched news reports of domestic violence situations that ended in tragedy, where family and friend were completely stunned because they had no idea what was going on?  Or someone that took their own life and family, and friends never knew that they were struggling.

You do not want to be in a situation where you are now posting these “perfect” pictures to which people see and think “goals,” as you cringe thinking to yourself if only they knew what was really going on.  When you say you want someone else’s seemingly perfect life, just remember that you also want what you cannot see; the good, the bad, and the ugly.  And you may not want any of that after all.