That’s Not Your Job

When we love and care about someone, we want the best for them.  We want them to live their best life full of happiness, joy, abundance, good health, and much, much more.  It saddens us to see them “wasting” their life, or not living up to their full potential.  It hurts us to know that they do not see in themselves what we see in them.  Naturally, we want to help them or “fix” them in some way.  But here’s the thing.  You cannot do that.  That is not your job.

As unfortunate as it may be to us, at some point, we must realize that some people are content with where they are in life, and have no desire to change or to become a better version of themselves.  You may love them to infinity and beyond, and want them to change, but just like your journey is your journey, their journey is their journey. 

Trying to force someone to heal or become a better person often leaves us feeling depleted, as we try to interject onto them what we believe they should be doing.  But again, it is not up to us.  We cannot force anyone to heal or to become a better person.  Some people will always be ok with mediocrity and in living life the way they currently do, even if it is harmful to them. 

Oftentimes, we get so caught up in trying to help someone else, that we can become a person that we no longer recognize.  We become depleted as our energy reserve slowly declines.  Some of us have had family members that are or were addicted to drugs, alcohol, or anything else, and our first instinct is to try to help them.  However, as the old saying goes, unless and until a person wants to change and gets tired of living life the way they currently are, they are not going to change.  They have to get to that point of wanting to change, and nothing and no one can force them to.

Even though we cannot force anyone to change or to heal, I am not saying that you cannot speak with your loved one about their behavior or what they are doing, especially if it is detrimental to them.  You can always speak positivity over someone, but they make the final decision in how to run their own life.  Any changes must come from within.

Ultimately, although it may be painful, we need to just accept people for who they are, and leave them where they are.  Maybe a light will go off in them as they see you living your life, elevating, ascending, and becoming a better person.  Or, maybe that light will never go off.   But it is not up to you to save anyone.  The best thing that you can do for someone is to live your life to the best of your abilities in the most loving and productive way, and to show them by example, not by force.