Are You Really Happy for Them?

Stop hating on those that you see making moves, being successful, and leveling up.  You must understand, trust, and believe that there is enough to go around for all of us.  However, you cannot get upset at the next person, because they put in the work which is now paying off and you did not. 

Now I know you may be thinking, “well I put in the work too.”  While that may be true that you have been working just as hard or harder, perhaps it is just not your time yet.  But again, you must believe that your time is coming.  In the meantime, hating on others that are progressing and making moves will not make your success come any faster.  In fact, it could halt your success, because instead of focusing on building your own brand, company, and so on, you are now more focused on what someone else is doing, and expending too much energy simply being a hater.

I’m sure that most of us have seen this all too often where people act like they are happy for their ‘friends’ by cheering them on initially as they are building something, but as their ‘friend’ starts gaining more traction, the other person becomes jealous of their ‘friend.’  As unfortunate as it is, sometimes people tend to be proud of your success so long as you are near, or at least not too far from where they are, but as you gain more and more success and ultimately pass them, they do not like that and become envious.

They may even go as far as spreading lies about their ‘friend’ or their business because they are envious.  Of course, this means that they were never a friend in the first place.  I have never understood being jealous or upset about another’s success, because there are several factors that go into it.  First of all, you may not be fully aware of everything they had to go through to get to that point, the hard work they had to put in, and so on. 

Now of course, some people may not have to work as hard as others, perhaps having great connections that you may not have, and so forth, but that’s simply the reality sometimes whether you think it is fair or not.  But again, that does not mean that you cannot or will not be successful.  While you may need to work a little harder than they did, there is still more than enough to go around for everyone, including you.

So, stop pocket watching and looking at everything that they do, what they buy, what they have going on, etc., and focus on building your own business.  Instead of wasting energy focusing on them, put that energy towards what you want to do, and watch how you begin to flourish.  In the meantime, work on that envious heart and be genuinely happy for your friends that are making traction and becoming more and more successful.  Your time is coming.