Did They Forget Me?

Where was my invite?  Why did I not hear about this?  Why was I not invited?  Stop.  Let’s pump the brakes right here.  How many times have some of us gone on social media only to see friends or those we thought were our friends, out together having a blast?  They may have been at that new restaurant that you mentioned, or an event that they knew you would enjoy and have all talked about, but guess what?  None of them told you that they were attending, and even worse, did not invite you.

On the other hand, you are always inviting them out and including them in various events and outings from wine tastings, to brunch, and everything in between.  You thought you were all friends, as you usually go out with all of them or even a few of them if the others cannot make it.  But now, they are getting together without you.  Without a second thought of you.  And you find yourself asking “where is my invite?”  Stop asking.  Read this carefully.  If they wanted to, they would have.

I have found myself in this situation where I would see friends or so-called friends posting beautiful photos and videos on social media of their outings together, just laughing and having a good time.  And to be honest, it did make me feel a certain type of way.  I could not believe that they didn’t even think to invite me.  And I would find myself texting one or several of them to ask why I was not invited, and the response was crazy sometimes.  “Oh, you could have come out too.”  But how could I have come when I did not know about it?  None of them even though to text me to let me know.

Even if it was a last-minute thing and everyone couldn’t make it, I would have at least thought that they would text me to say that they decided to go to XYZ to ask if I could come out.  Even if I couldn’t make it, the principal is in the ‘ask.’  It would have made me at least feel included.

However, as this happened more often, I had to take a step back, breathe and say “If they wanted to, they would have.”  If they wanted to invite me, they would have.  They all have my phone number and any of them could have reached out to me.  So, when someone or a group of people do not invite you somewhere or include you just remember that if they wanted to, they would have.  Never beg someone for their attention or time whether it is friendship or romantic relationship.  If you were as important to them as they say, and they wanted you to be there, you would have at the very least been invited, even if you couldn’t make it.

Not to mention, looking back, sometimes not being invited is a blessing in disguise.  That could be God, the Universe, the Creator showing you that this person or these people do not need to be in your life.  Perhaps their time in your life has come to an end, because as we all know, not everyone is meant to be in your life forever.  Some are only meant to be there for a season perhaps to teach you something, whether about yourself or otherwise.

Sometimes you just have to take a step back and say, well I wasn’t invited because they didn’t want to invite me, and yes, it may sting, but life goes on.  People that want to be in your life, and include you will never make you feel left out.