It’s Their Life

When we love and care about someone, we want the best for them, and it saddens us to see them “wasting” their life, or not living up to their full potential.  It hurts us to know that they do not see in themselves what we see in them.  Naturally, we want to help them or “fix” them in some way, because we want them to live their best life full of happiness, joy, abundance, good health, and much, much more.  But it’s not your job to fix them.  It’s their life.

Some people are ok with living a life of mediocrity and have no desire to change anything about themselves.  They don’t want to heal, change, or become of better version of themselves.  However, as the old saying goes, unless and until a person wants to change and gets tired of living life the way they are currently living, they are not going to change.  They have to get to that point of wanting to change, and nothing and no one can force them to.

Just like your journey is your journey, their journey is their journey.  Ultimately, how they live their life is up to them.  Maybe something will spark within them eventually where they will want to make a change, but either way, you cannot force it.  You cannot save anyone but yourself, no matter how much you love them and want them to change. 

Even though we cannot force anyone to change or to heal, I am not saying that you cannot speak with your loved one about their behavior or what they are doing, especially if it is detrimental to them.  You can always speak positivity over someone, but they make the final decision in how to run their own life.  Any changes must come from within.

Maybe a light will go off in them as they see you living your life, elevating, ascending, and becoming a better person.  Or, maybe that light will never go off.   But it is not up to you to save anyone.  The best thing that you can do for someone is to live your life to the best of your abilities in the most loving and productive way, and to show them by example, not by force.