Stop Prodding. Stop Questioning.

Stop prodding and stop questioning.  No explanation is required.  If someone tells you that they do not want to do something that affects their own life, stop questioning them.  Quite frankly, it is none of your business.  For example, some people, both men and women do not want to have children and guess what?  It is their prerogative and right.  I cannot tell you how many times I have heard someone say that they did not want children, only to have someone question them or make a comment.  “Why not?”  “Children are a blessing!”  “Your life will be richer with children.”  “You won’t have a legacy!”  

If someone tells you that they do not want to have children, who are you to question them?  They may just be saying that because they are unable to, and saying they do not want children is just an easier way for them to deal with it, rather than telling you the truth, although again, it is none of your business.  Or, it could really be that they do not want to have children.  Your only response should be ok, and leave it alone.  They did not question you about your decision to have multiple children that you may not even be able to afford. 

I remember when a friend of mine and her husband decided to get a housekeeper.  As most people do, she asked for company recommendations on social media.  They have a huge beautiful home, and her housekeeper now comes two to three times per week, and also cooks for them.  They are busy working parents and their children are involved in various activities. 

As soon as she posted asking for recommendations, I saw many comments that oozed jealousy and envy.  “Your children need to learn about discipline and clean their own home.”  “Why do you need a housekeeper?”  “You all could clean your own home.”  The bottom line is this is what she and her husband wanted and they could afford it.

Stop questioning and prodding the decisions of other people, especially when it does not affect you.  If they are doing something that you do not want to do, that’s fine.  Don’t do it.  However, you do not get to tell someone else what to do with their money and their life.  They do not owe you any explanation, because ultimately again, it is none of your business.