You Don’t Owe Them Anything

Some people tend to think that they have the right to know everything about you as if you owe them something.  Especially when it comes to social media.  In my opinion, many people have this social media thing wrong.  They want you to share every single part of your life, and actually feel entitled to it.

You do not have the right to know everything or anything honestly, about someone else’s life.  Whatever they choose to share with you, whether it be on social media or real life, is up to them.  However, when it comes to social media in particular, some people need to understand that content creators share what they want and show you what they want.  If you like and agree, then great.  Feel free to “like” the post and even comment.  But if you do not like it, simply move on.  You do not have the right to know any more than they provide.

There is a woman that I follow on TikTok who is currently pregnant, and what she said in a recent post, actually inspired this blog article.  Her TikTok name is “House of Keto – Abby,” and in this post she talked about how people feel so entitled to know everything about her pregnancy from how many weeks and months she is, to when she is due and so on.  Some people were actually upset that she chose not to share her exact due date.  Make that make sense.  Can you imagine a stranger being mad at you for not sharing details of your life?

They feel entitled to know everything about her pregnancy and every detail about her life.  She said that she and her partner share what they chose to share and they decided to only share certain things about the upcoming birth of their daughter.  They choose to keep certain things private. 

She went on to explain the reason she did this and how you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t, giving the example of how women can be treated when they announce how far along in their pregnancy they are.  Inevitably, there will be some people who will say that a woman is “too big” or “too small” depending on how far along she is or that she must be “doing something wrong.”  That said, I can see why she did what she did.  I can relate to it in how when you tell people something, some people tend to pick every little thing apart. 

I have also seen on social media people having the audacity to ask someone to show their home.  Some people for example, choose to shoot their video from a specific corner or area of their home and without a doubt, someone, or several people in the comments will ask them to either show the rest of their home or ask why they are not showing the rest of their home.  However, my question is this.  Why do you feel so entitled to see the rest of their home?  Also, why would they do that?  Do you not understand the world in which we live? 

I have noticed that even some parents chose not to put their children on social media, and people will ask them why they do not show their child or children.  The answer is simple.  They don’t want to, nor do they owe you an explanation.  I’m not a mother yet, but I can honestly say that with the way the world is, I highly doubt that I would share my child on social media, or if I do, it might be small stuff here or there.  Of course, I wouldn’t know until I’m in that role, but again, the point is, if that parent chooses not to share their child on social media, so be it.  They don’t owe you access to videos or photos of their child. 

Ultimately, stop feeling entitled to knowing beyond what someone chooses to share on social media.  They are showing you a small thirty second or one-to-two-minute clip or snippet into their lives.  Take it or leave it.  You are not entitled to know any more information than what they choose to share.